Michelle, I don't think you did anything wrong. you only used a 1st name, which is fairly common (unlike, say... "Gerry"), but I was trying to make a point of principle in this. As a rule: don;t put people on the spot who isn;t here to defend themselves, and when they don, don;t be surprised if they become antagonistic and drag your name through the mud.
A few eyars ago there was a classic name-and-shame here on MB with the model making the tog out to be the Antichrist, and once the tog responded, his side was told, the model had a lot of egg left on her face - he is still around, she is long gone. All I'm saying is be careful when naming someone, the BEST that can happen is you are made a fool of on MB, worst case... you can find yourself in some deep legal (and sometimes illegal) poop.
...don't know anything about you except your "name" and I cant find anything on the web and you don't feel like sharing it with me, we'll then I'd rather not work with you anyway...
Then yes, err on the side of caution. As was said a million times - in this industry, your name is everything - if you dont have one, its still kinda okay. If you have one and fuck it up... you may just never get it back.
This industry is self-regulating, I've noticed, we don't generally tolrate assholes.